Monday, July 30, 2012

My Mommy-Mood-Plan

Mommy Mondays

Ever have one of those days when you wish someone would send you to Time Out?

Or make you take a nap? Or tell you to go to bed early?

I woke up a little glum one morning this week, and I could afford the luxury of laying around because we’d planned a relaxing day. However, as I prepare to start school in exactly one week, I realized that though I have spent hours planning our academic schedule, I haven’t taken the time to do some mommy-mood-planning.

What do I mean?

Basically: What do I do this school year on days when I feel like I’m walking through sludge or just “draggin’ my wagon?” Because those days will come. Probably on day 3 of the school year.

I need some mommy-mood-planning for the moments when I won't want to listen to my child read another page of Frog and Toad. When I will think, "I don't really need to check her math sheet." When I'm tempted to just stare at my iphone all day and doodle with friends. When I am dreaming of sandy beaches and late night coffee talks and an uninterrupted day with a book and a sunbeam.

Here's the start of my plan, which I will post with my school supplies:

When I'm TIRED.
Legitimately tired. A child woke up during the night. I was struck with sleeplessness at 3:30 AM. We had friends stay late. I'm sick.

I will…
-        Remind myself that it's not an excuse to sin by scolding my children and negating my responsibilities.
-        Plan a 30 minute nap that afternoon, which will give me something to look forward to, a reward for my faithful service even when I'm tired.
-        Have an extra cup of coffee.
-        Read out loud to the kids at the table, knowing that a couch and a pillow is a recipe for disaster.
-        Take everyone on a walk.
-        Drink a glass of water and take my vitamins.

“And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.” Phil 4:19

“Love not sleep, lest you come to poverty; open your eyes, and you will have plenty of bread.” Proverbs 20:13

When I’m BORED.
I look at the 'to-do' list for the day and am strictly un-enthusiastic about what it contains.
I will…
-        Remember that I should not make an idol of “fun.”
-        Consider ways to change it up. Read to the kids on a blanket outside. Build a model from history out of LEGOs. Pull out the paints and create something. Start a game of Monopoly.
-        Not sit down by the computer. I will get up and keep moving.
-        Consider Christ – the cross was not “fun.”

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,  since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” Colossians 3:23-24

When I’m LAZY.
I simply do not want to do the responsibilities that God has for me that day. I don't want to do the dishes. Or clean up the family room again. Or put away those piles of clothes. 

I will…
-        Remind myself of who I am serving.
-        Obey because I’m supposed to, whether I feel like it or not.
-        Pray for help.
-        Make a to-do list and write down how long I think each item will take. I can set a timer and race to the finish.
-        Not allow myself to sit until a few things are accomplished.
-        Turn on some motivating music.

“30 I went past the field of the sluggard,
    past the vineyard of the man who lacks judgment;
31 thorns had come up everywhere,
    the ground was covered with weeds,
    and the stone wall was in ruins.
32 I applied my heart to what I observed
    and learned a lesson from what I saw:
33 A little sleep, a little slumber,
    a little folding of the hands to rest--
34 and poverty will come on you like a bandit
    and scarcity like an armed man.”
Proverbs 24:30-34

I see the school plan I so diligently created, but I feel somehow strangled by it. My mind wants to wander to new and exciting things before I'm even a month into my schedule. I begin to inwardly rebel at cleaning lists, food charts, and daily routines. The plan says I need to take a nature walk with my kids, and I think, "No, I really don't want to today." And slowly, day by day, my plan erodes into more normalcy.

I will…
-        Practice faithfulness.
-        Prayerfully evaluate the activity in question. My plans can be set in pencil, not stone, but I don’t want to form a habit of jumping off the ship.
-        Remember my goals for the year. I prayed over the list and what God wanted to accomplish through our family.
-        Push away from the habit I have of being "all talk and no action." This leads to poverty of our home, and I need to view it that way.

In all toil there is profit, but mere talk tends only to poverty.” Proverbs 14:23

 “Whoever is slothful will not roast his game, but the diligent man will get precious wealth.” Proverbs 12:27

When I’m Selfish.
I want to do something fun for me. Spend extra time on Facebook. Browse that internet sale someone tweeted about. Dive into a book when I should be making dinner.

I will…
-        Repent of my selfishness and ask God to help me live for Him.
-        Practice self-control. There is personal time built into the schedule. I need to have patience and wait.
-        If my mind is preoccupied with other thoughts, I will jot them down on a list so I don’t forget them, but I will cease thinking of them and focus on the task at hand.

Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it. Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air. But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.” I Cor 9:24-27

When I am Interrupted.
I have a plan, and I'm trying to follow it, darn it! Then a child wets his pants, he hits his sibling, or she spills her bowl of cereal. My husband calls with a favor. A neighbor stops in to say hi. Something legitimate needs immediate attention.

I will…
-        Trust His plan for my day.
-        Thank Him for never giving me more than I can handle.
-        Take this opportunity to show faith to my kids.
-        Not use this as an excuse to snap at my children or punish everyone around me with my bad attitude.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

So help me out. What other moods do I need to add to my Mommy-Mood-Plan?


Jen said...

You have some awesome plans to deal with moods, Becky! I completely understand where you are coming from! You have got to be prepared, and it looks like you are! The most helpful thing for me is to know that feelings and moods are transient. When I have negative feelings, I can be confident that it will pass and not be a slave to my feelings. I also know that I am still a good person, even when I am in a bad mood, and try to be gentle with myself. Have your kids read "One of those days" by Amy Krouse Rosenthal? My kiddos picked it out at the library and I loved it! It opened up some good discussion about how we feel and it really makes my kids laugh.

BeckyE said...

Jen - I don't know of that book! I'll have to check it out. Thanks so much. :)