So now I need advice - how do I my motivate my children to work quickly? When I give them tasks, they usually take forever. Unless I set a timer and threaten and yell, which I don't like to do, they mope and dawdle and procrastinate.
They've been "cleaning the basement" all morning, a basement that was perfectly clean the day before. The task shouldn't have taken more than 15 minutes. I've been upstairs cleaning other things because I knew that going down there and seeing them dragging their feet would have driven me nuts today. And I could go rescue them, cleaning it in a matter of moments (everything has a place...) but I want them to learn something. (But I don't think they're learning anything, because the behavior keeps happening...)
I've been going round and round w/ this for the last six months or so, as many of you reading know. I've tried making it fun, rewards, timers, limiting items, explaining the place for everything, taking away priviledges/things, etc... So far I've not found a solution, other than me turning into the drill sargeant. I guess my anger/frustration about it comes from a fear that this lifestyle will continue and I'll still be arguing with them about cleaning their room when they're 15. Is there any hope??
Is it too much to expect an almost 6 & 4 year old to be able to pick up their room? Or clean up the few toys they took out in the basement? Maybe my expectations are too high.
My next "tactic" I might try next week is to make them be with me everywhere I go. Not letting them out of my sight. At least for a day. Kind of like being grounded to mom. They love to run off and play and be creative, so this might work. I'll let you know...